Sandee Sez: What's with all the fur flying, hair pulling?
- Sandra Ahenakew | December 16, 2013
You know you're old when you start a sentence like this, "I remember when I was young." Anyhow, when I was young, I recall watching boys and men get into fights; back in those days it was a one on one fight and no weapons were used. The girls and women stood around and didn't get involved. Those days are gone. Today girl fights are everywhere and they are nasty, hair pulling, clothing tearing, body biting, full on assaults.
Ladies fight so dirty and usually start over some man or their friends' man and now it's the men who stand around watching hoping that one of the girl's shirts gets ripped off so they can see boobies. Ever sick! The fight never ends there, oh no! It gets posted onto You Tube so the whole world gets to see. Do a quick search of the internet and you will find titles like, "Girl Fights in the Hood, Girl Fights No Shirts."Today I was reading the news about a security guard in his fifties who died while trying to break up a girl fight in the halls of the school he was working at. Turns out the girls were fighting over a pair of jeans. Apparently one of the girls borrowed the jeans from the other girls and wasnt going to give them back. Note to self, return any clothes you may have borrowed from your friends ASAP.
Beware of being the new girl on the reserve because you become an instant target. The women get mad at you when their man looks in your direction. Stay away from the rez parties unless you have full combat gear and make sure you wear head gear that covers your ears! I know one lady who has about half of her ear missing from fight with another woman; her ear looks like a cookie with a big bite missing; teeth marks and all.
This one time, in my neighborhood watering hole, this woman walked in and went up to another lady playing the VLTs. "You slept with my old man" was all I heard before the full on cat fight began. After all the fur was swept up and the claws were put away it turned out these ladies were cousins. That man must have felt like the last coke a cola in the desert to have two grown women fighting over him.
My friends and I still love dancing so this one weekend we decided to go to this club. There weren't too many people there but there was a group of nice looking ladies dancing on the dance floor. Looked to me like they were having good times; dancing and laughing. About forty-five minutes later my friends and I went outside for some fresh air and those same ladies were outside beating the crap out of each other! There was hair everywhere and one lady lying in the middle of the street in the fetal position.
My advice to the ladies in the clubs, "Stop shaking your booties and give your head a shake." Run home and check out You Tube because you may be the next ridiculous girl fight on the world wide web. You wouldn't want your kids, parents or boss to see you in that position. If you're one of those girls who loves to scrap then make sure you wear underwear because if your clothes get ripped off everyone is going to see your junk.
The sight of two girls fighting still has the power to shock. Although if often happens between men. Ask yourself why are women doing it and why are we so offended by it? Perhaps because we define women in terms of their relationships as mothers, daughters and wives; whereas men are defined as individuals in terms of work status or what they do. Society generally doesn't think about how men relate to each other.
On a positive note, things are slowly changing for some girls who say, "If you can't fix stuff with words then just go your separate ways. Live your own life. You don't need to physically fight, because it really proves nothing." Wise words from the mouths of 'babes.'
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